Texture Tuesday | Dear Birth Mom

Me being an emotional person mostly works to my advantage.  I feel deeply, passionately, and fully.  It has helped me in my relationships, careers, and life.  Most of the time, I love this about myself! The older I have gotten, the more I appreciate my ability to love and feel.  With our adoption and our journey to meet our child, I feel like my emotions are at all times about to burst open!  I feel like I am the definition of OVERWHELMED! Mostly in a good way, too.  I get so emotional about thinking the first time we will meet our birth mother, the first time we get that call to say that we have been chosen to parent a child, our child, the first time we set out to travel to meet that gift, and the first time we meet that sweet baby that we were chosen to love.  See, that is so much to feel on a day to day basis, so to help me deal and channel all that love, excitement, happiness, nervousness, and anticipation, I have started writing letters to our future birth mom.  No, we haven’t been chosen yet, but I wanted to document this journey, this waiting, this love someway.  Writing seems to be the best way to do so!

So I have been writing, typing, and jotting down thoughts, prayers, and emotions that I want to remember, that I want to share with our future friend, and our child’s birth mom.  Now, these letters are beyond personal to me, so I am not quite ready to share, and maybe never will.  But the last several days, this woman, that I cannot wait to meet has been heavy on my heart, and I wanted to share.

 

Our amazing adoption agency has classes at the end of each month to help us learn more about adoption, what to expect, and to connect with other adoptive parents.  Last night in our class, they shared a few things that got the whole class in tears (well all the ladies!!).  I wanted to share this poem with y’all! This is written by a birth mother about her equally important role in her son’s life as her son’s adoptive parents.

Teamwork

By Jenn M. 

I gave you a mouth–

They’ll help you say what you feel.

 

I gave you arms–

They’ll teach you to hug.

 

I gave you legs–

They’ll help you run after your dreams.

 

I gave you eyes–

They’ll teach you to look deeper.

 

I gave you ears–

They’ll help you to listen to every word.

 

I gave you a heart–

They’ll teach you to love.

 

I gave you a life–

They’ll teach you to live it.  

SO here is another Texture Tuesday with my thoughts on this amazing, selfless, future birth mom that is on my heart today, and everyday.